Many times my character defects are best seen as self defense. Character defects are of no value as defense mechanism. Character defenses actually make you much more vulnerable to pain
The insight a desperate person finally sees: “There must be a better way I will pay any price to get the help I need.
A recovery strategy: A. Uncover B. Discover C.Discard . When I couldn’t face the uncovering the of my character defects I needed to keep coming back to Al-Anon until I discovered the amazing support I have from fellow program members and also discover the powerful love of my Higher Power despite any character defect. God loves me the same on my worse day as She/He does on my best day.
Hubris: “God I don’t need you yet. I will call you when I need you
One time my sponsor teased me about my reluctance to pray. When I said to her “I better pray about this” she said, ”Wow, I didn’t know things were that desperate”
12 Step programs are simple but hard.
Serving God is a blast. That was a surprise to me. I thought God would send me to some terrible place as a missionary. Instead my Higher Power slowly but steadily moved me toward the situation that best suited me and best fulfilled me.