As a boy, preteen, teen, young adult and adult I tried to win my mother’s tenderness toward me. At an intellectual level I knew it was futile. I had painfully learned it was futile as I will describe below. The initial shock of realization was healed by sharing with program friends and family. The original … More Another Thing That Blocks Me

1. My mom was a serious over eater. I have struggled with over eating all my life. I remember that as a toddler or a very small child I Would got to the Icebox or maybe it was an old style refrigerator, {My family had both at different times} raiding the cold keeping device for … More Things That Limit Me

A lovely woman at the meeting shared she was worried about her son. She knew he had been on the street for awhile. I learned that My love for street people was so important in several ways I had not considered. I was raised in a way that caused me to fear God was the … More What I Learned Today At Al-Anon

WAIT” Why ..Am ..I.. Talking? .This is a good way to remember an important caution for us Al-Anons. -Said by a frustrated Al-Anon who found herself using stinking, old behaviors. “I wish I could pee in a cup to see if I was being codependent again”. -FEAR: False.. Evidence.. Appearing..Real. -I am powerless over God’s … More String Of Pearls 1

When I was at Union Rescue Mission in Los Angeles I frequently got so tired I could no longer function effectively. When that happened, I would sometimes walk north up Main Street a couple of blocks to a pretty spot and get a cup of coffee. On my way to the coffee shop, I walked … More Thoughts On Mass Murder And Gun Control

I have four sisters, four daughters and four granddaughters. I was created as a good dad to girls and I was created to love them as babies, toddlers, teenagers and adults. People have suggested to me that I am unfortunate because I will never know what it is to have a son. I responded to … More My Girls

When I was at Union Rescue Mission in Los Angeles I frequently got so tired I could no longer function effectively. When that happened, I would sometimes walk north up Main Street a couple of blocks to a pretty spot and get a cup of coffee. On my way to the coffee shop, I walked … More God’s Unfathomable Forgiveness

Correspondence About forgiveness…..Dear Tom, Thanks for your letter. You write well. You will find your own path and tools of recovery. The biggest mistake I made was thinking that recovery was a question of information. My years of research and study did help my thinking. However, knowledge did very little to heal my emotions. My … More Correspondence About Forgiveness

Russia has been limited and hampered by the fact that their only port for trade has been on the Arctic Ocean. That has meant that Russia has been able to do international trade for the warm months of the year. Russians have for centuries has wanted a warm water port. The Russian invasion of the … More Ukraine Reality

God loves me as I am today even though I have yet to accept that I am the new creature the Bible insists I am. I am only asked to work with God in order surrender my self to him There are no stairs for me to climb. No ladders for me to go up. … More The Best News 2