There is a Christian short song that is Called “To Be Used Of God.”. I don’t like that song. The last thing God would do with me is to use me. I wanted all my decisions about my Children to be based on what they would enjoy not what I wanted. I resolved to say yes to them as much as I could so that if I ever I had to say no it would be against a backdrop of Yeses.
Of course my ability to stick to my no’s was severely limited by the fact they each had a well developed strategy to get me to change to a yes when I originally said no. When all four of them used their individual strategies at the same time I was a push over. In time I thought it was mature of me to recognize that I stood no chance and just give in. I would worry more about my fathering if I did not admire and enjoy my daughters so much.