One of my frustrations in my early days of working my Al-Anon program was I turned thing over to god then nearly immediately I reclaimed my problem and made it mine again. Then I turned it over again and so on over and over again.
I asked my program friends about the problem and sought the help of my Higher Power. In time a way of looking at the turning things over and over emerged.
I now understand that when I turn something over to God, God always responds in a predictable way. She/He takes from me the part of my surrendering problem I actually wanted to surrender and returns the rest to me.
That means I never turn over the same problem to God. The next time I turn the problem over I am turning over a smaller version of the problem since God kept some of the problem the last time I turned it over.
George Caywood 