If I depend on being loved I tend to be a people pleaser. My neediness gobbles down the praise and then I have to look for more. I have to have my sense of being loved to be constantly refreshed.
If I feel I am lovable your act of love stays with me and does not go away. I store it. If you are unresponsive to me I assume you must have eaten too much spicy pizza last night and return love to you because it seems like you are needing it. That leaves me free to connect with someone else.