The following ideas have helped me.
- Adult sex is based on knowledge and familiarity. Adolescent sex is based on unfamiliarity.
- Sexuality is primarily the expression of previously developed intimacy. Sexuality is a relatively ineffective means of obtaining intimacy.
- I think men need women more than women need men.
- I think parents need adult children more than adult children need parents.
- If parents are a problem for their kids, kids most typically find solutions to their problem that the parents won’t like.
- If one person in a relationship gets better the partner will not stay the same. The other person will either get better too, or else get worse.
- I do better on a first date if I do not see myself as possibly establishing a relationship. It is better for me to see myself as just having a good time.
- Don’t think. Trust God and do the dishes. [I just finished doing the dishes, so I know this works.]
- If I compare myself to other people I lose. I lose even when I think I come off better in the comparison.
- I hate it when I feel duplicitous. I love it when I feel authentic.
